 OT - Wedding Gift (by dino [CA]) Oct 26, 2021 3:18 PM
 OT - Wedding Gift (by JB [OR]) Oct 26, 2021 3:50 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Oct 26, 2021 4:17 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by WMH [NC]) Oct 26, 2021 5:19 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by dino [CA]) Oct 26, 2021 7:19 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Fabric Gal [CA]) Oct 26, 2021 8:15 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Roy [AL]) Oct 26, 2021 8:44 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by JR [ME]) Oct 26, 2021 9:11 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Nicole [PA]) Oct 26, 2021 10:04 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Robert J [CA]) Oct 27, 2021 1:33 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Oct 27, 2021 8:28 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Oct 27, 2021 8:28 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by FloridaNative [FL]) Oct 27, 2021 8:53 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Allym [NJ]) Oct 27, 2021 11:36 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Wilma [PA]) Oct 27, 2021 11:43 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by WMH [NC]) Oct 28, 2021 11:19 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by JB [OR]) Oct 28, 2021 1:21 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Sandy [CO]) Oct 29, 2021 6:46 PM
OT - Wedding Gift (by Jim [OH]) Oct 30, 2021 11:49 AM
OT - Wedding Gift (by dino [CA]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 3:18 PM
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I tried to find something I wanted to give from where the couple is registered for gifts but I just didn't see anything I wanted to give to a good friend getting married.
I figured I could fall back on the old reliable wedding gift of money. New couples typically can use some extra money to get what they want.
Anyway the question is should it be a check or gift card and also what amount??
Thanks.
--76.171.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by JB [OR]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 3:50 PM
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A check is much better than a gift card. They can spend it anywhere.
How much kinda depends on how good of friends they are and how flush you are. $100-150 seems like a good place to start. --73.25.xx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 4:17 PM
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Check or crispy $100 bills(S) - AVOID GIFT CARDS, we giftcards some four years ago and it's painful. I will never give gift cards ever. Worst gift ever. --172.58.xx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 5:19 PM
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NOT GCs. You'd think an Amazon card, for instance, would be universal. It is not. DIL gets them from parents at the school all the time and sells them to me because I use Amazon and she doesn't.
My son has a wallet full of GCs from his wedding - 8 years ago.
Cold hard cash is best, but if not that, a check as mentioned before. --108.4.x.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by dino [CA]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 7:19 PM
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When I mentioned gift cards as a possibility, I was thinking of American Express gift cards because they can be used with no problem for online purchases unlike some other gift cards and of course they are accepted all over the place in person or online.
Does that change anybody's mind or still say I should go with check.
The only reason I was thinking to avoid check was I was not sure if they have joint bank account and I thought it might be a bad idea for check to be made out to only one of couple, might be offensive to other. Also I do not know if they plan to use same last name, these days some people don't.
So everyone agree check made out to both with same last name is way to go??
--76.171.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Fabric Gal [CA]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 8:15 PM
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I vote for a check as well. No gift cards.
Make out the check to: Jane Doe or John Smith. They can figure out the particulars themselves.
As for the amount, it depends on how well you know the couple, are they family, are you close to them or their family, etc. --68.8.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Roy [AL]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 8:44 PM
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Give them at least $500.00. They will have fond memories of you and may even worship the ground you walk on. Anything less ($150.00) would be chump change and could be an insult. --68.63.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by JR [ME]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 9:11 PM
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I second Roy’s suggestion of $500 if you can afford it without really denting your net worth. Definitely a check made out to Mr. and Mrs John Smith if they are traditional or Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith if they are more liberated.
Be generous. We are here for a few decades, then gone forever. We’re not rich but wifey and I don’t miss a $500 here or there. --98.13.xx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Nicole [PA]) Posted on: Oct 26, 2021 10:04 PM
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No gift cards. cash or a check.
Last time I wrote a check I wrote it to the bride - the one I knew originally. I put a sticky note on that said "Greg Groom too". Figured it was easier for one to cash it.
In my culture, it's a very tight knit community. Basic strangers receive $500. Good family friends or family receive four digits. There are usually several hundred at a wedding. Yes, my math is correct.
--98.237.xxx.xx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Robert J [CA]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 1:33 AM
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A friends child getting married and I'm going to attend, $100. A friend getting married, $250. A really close friend, then $500. --47.155.xx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 8:28 AM
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Check. Anyway you write their names they will be able to deposit. Snap a picture with their
phone and it's deposited. Avoid any gift card. Even the visa cards we received it's hard to spend it to zero without monitoring account online. And one card expired! I got on phone with customer service and danced on the keypad to get it reinstated. The gift cards were thoughtful but it became a job for me to monitor and just sucked the life out of the "gift". --172.58.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by plenty [MO]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 8:28 AM
Message:
Check. Anyway you write their names they will be able to deposit. Snap a picture with their
phone and it's deposited. Avoid any gift card. Even the visa cards we received it's hard to spend it to zero without monitoring account online. And one card expired! I got on phone with customer service and danced on the keypad to get it reinstated. The gift cards were thoughtful but it became a job for me to monitor and just sucked the life out of the "gift". --172.58.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by FloridaNative [FL]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 8:53 AM
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Agree with check or cash. A gift card isn't as it seems on the receiving end. Plenty touched on it - the monitoring of the balance and not being able to actually use up the entire amount is a minor job in itself. Some GC's charge against the balance for a monthly fee. Some have restrictions on where you can use the GC. Just go for a check or actual cash. --104.0.xx.xx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Allym [NJ]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 11:36 AM
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Not cash. Wedding guests have been known to pilfer envelopes, also staff at venue. --108.24.xx.xx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Wilma [PA]) Posted on: Oct 27, 2021 11:43 AM
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$500? Since when? We usually are generous, but that is well beyond what I'd do, unless it was my kid (in which case, either gender, we'd contribute to the wedding well beyond that amount).
I'm with the check/cash crowd. A lot of couples are putting that as an option in their online wedding site, but I prefer doing it directly, as I don't trust those sites to be handling funds.
Amount? Whatever you feel comfortable with and can afford! --98.114.xxx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Oct 28, 2021 11:19 AM
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I'm with Wilma. $500? Way too much! --108.4.x.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by JB [OR]) Posted on: Oct 28, 2021 1:21 PM
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I definitely agree, $500 seems obscene unless it's family. --73.25.xx.xxx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Sandy [CO]) Posted on: Oct 29, 2021 6:46 PM
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I would give a check, as I gave cash for a couple and never heard any acknowledgement/thank you so I don’t know if they received it. And don’t want to bring it up to them, as it’s awkward. With a check, you know they received it. --68.235.xx.xx |
OT - Wedding Gift (by Jim [OH]) Posted on: Oct 30, 2021 11:49 AM
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What Robert J and Allym said. --184.57.xxx.xx |
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