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Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 7:16 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 7:48 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 8:05 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by #22 [MO]) Oct 6, 2018 8:05 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by WMH [NC]) Oct 6, 2018 8:06 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 8:08 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by myob [GA]) Oct 6, 2018 8:21 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Jasper [OH]) Oct 6, 2018 8:55 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by RB [MI]) Oct 6, 2018 9:04 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Mary [MI]) Oct 6, 2018 9:04 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by AllyM [NJ]) Oct 6, 2018 9:08 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Ken [NY]) Oct 6, 2018 9:16 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by DJ [VA]) Oct 6, 2018 9:28 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by S i d [MO]) Oct 6, 2018 9:56 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by JB [OR]) Oct 6, 2018 10:21 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Vee [OH]) Oct 6, 2018 11:07 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by GKARL [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 11:36 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Livethedream [AZ]) Oct 6, 2018 12:29 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by ReMaven [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 2:03 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Ed [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 2:52 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Plenty [MO]) Oct 6, 2018 3:16 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by LisaFL [FL]) Oct 6, 2018 3:43 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by cjo'h [CT]) Oct 6, 2018 4:10 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by dlb [GA]) Oct 6, 2018 6:30 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 7:46 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 7:52 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Oct 6, 2018 7:53 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by myob [GA]) Oct 6, 2018 8:28 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Lucy [IN]) Oct 7, 2018 3:22 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by J [FL]) Oct 7, 2018 5:23 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by nhsailmaker [NH]) Oct 7, 2018 5:30 AM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by don [PA]) Oct 7, 2018 9:42 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Laura [MD]) Oct 7, 2018 9:57 PM
       Help-neighbor Issue (by Barb [MO]) Oct 8, 2018 5:31 AM

Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 7:16 AM

I have a neighbor at my one property who has taken to texting me any time he doesn’t like something at the house. He texted me that my fence was rotting and that he could give me the name of his fence guy to put up a nice white vinyl fence. That the tenants were parked in the street making it hard for “all the neighbors” to get in the driveways. That the tenants kid was throwing cigarette butts on his lawn. Just to let me know that the tenants left a big rut in my lawn (with photo) Today, he sent an impassioned text that he can’t believe they are cutting the oil tank at the property because he has a “seriously sick wife and father who were woken out of a sound sleep”. It’s almost 10:00 AM!

I’m raging right now so I’m not going to respond to him until Monday morning. But, seriously???

How would you handle this? Keep in mind that I’m a realtor in the area and another neighbor knows my parents through another friend.

Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 7:48 AM

Regardless of you being a Realtor and someone being a friend of your parents, I would ignore him.

I would only get involved in serious issues that concerned me.

On street parking is on street parking, you can't govern the street.

Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:05 AM

So, NE, you would just totally ignore his texts? That was my plan - to either not respond, or respond a few days out with the code and that's it (noise ordinance is 7 am - 10 pm).

Help-neighbor Issue (by #22 [MO]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:05 AM

Tell them to call the police and that you don't have the ability to regulate your tenants behavior.

Help-neighbor Issue (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:06 AM

I would respond with a text "Thank you."

That's my new thing. I never say "I'm sorry" anymore. At least not for things that really do not require it. For intance in our biz if someone doesn't meet the criteria, I don't apologize to them for it, as in, "I'm sorry but your income does not meet our minimum requirements." I say, "Thank you for your interest but ... etc." Every time I want to write "I'm sorry" I stop and rewrite it somehow to say "Thank you!" instead.

So for this neighbor, I would probably just say "Thank you for that information!" and leave it be. No response after that.

Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:08 AM

Ya I would ignore and probably block his #. WMH's response is good. It's acknowledges he said something, but not what and not that you're going to do anything. If you open your ears to him, he's just going to keep going.

Help-neighbor Issue (by myob [GA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:21 AM

Block his number-- move on. They want a response-- don't do it.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Jasper [OH]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:55 AM

Why does the neighbor have your number to be able to text you? I used to share that info at one time with neighbors, but not anymore due to the situation you describe. If something serious is going on, the police or fire dept. know how to contact me.

Help-neighbor Issue (by RB [MI]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:04 AM

I 2nd myob. --184.53.x.xx

Help-neighbor Issue (by Mary [MI]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:04 AM

This may be someone that feels it is his duty to report anything and everything that may affect your property and he may think he is doing you a service. I would just thank him for the information.Tell him to report it to the police or just ignore it.

Some tenants do not report anything, others report everything.

Help-neighbor Issue (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:08 AM

Sounds like the rotting fence might end up with someone from the town contacting you. Do you have any parking on the property? Might want to assign spaces. I try not to be a pain to the neighbors with the tenants and keep my property looking better than theirs or just as good. I have a bad neighbor who trims my ornamental dog wood out front down to nothing. Now That's a Problem

Help-neighbor Issue (by Ken [NY]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:16 AM

I would block his number.What would he do if the tenants owned the place?

Help-neighbor Issue (by DJ [VA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:28 AM

I wouldn't block the number, because if the house is on fire, you want a call.

I would respond with something like: "Thank you for being good neighbors who care about the neighborhood. I appreciate you letting me know about about any major problems that might arise - such as a fire or something of that level of seriousness. However, these types of things you have told me about are better addressed directly in a conversation with your neighbor. They are not issues that I would get involved in."

Help-neighbor Issue (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 9:56 AM

"because if the house is on fire, you want a call."

I don't. I can't put out of a fire. Call the the Fire Dept, not me! ;-)

If the house is on fire, gets knocked over by a tornado, or has any other kind of disaster....your TENANT will notify you. Or the sheriff/police/fire dept will.

Block his number and move on. There is no law yet mandating that you have to return calls/texts/emails or instant messages. It works with pesky applicants too!

"all calls go to voicemail"

Help-neighbor Issue (by JB [OR]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 10:21 AM

Personally, I love having concerned neighbors. They are paying attention to your property. They are your eyes and ears. I don't discourage that behavior.

They are not phoning you with these trivial matters, simply texting. A qucik glance at a text can let you know whether it is important or should be ignored.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Vee [OH]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 11:07 AM

Thanx for the update, Wed afternoon.

Help-neighbor Issue (by GKARL [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 11:36 AM

I'd block him. There are some people who have no sense of proportion and bring you everything no matter how trivial. You're going to know about anything of importance from someone else. Shut him down and get peace. This is one reason why I'm using my google voice number far more and my actual cell phone number less.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Livethedream [AZ]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 12:29 PM

Interesting, this is why many people dislike landlords. The neighbor LIVES there, he has an investment in his home. Your property it sounds like has maintenance issues. Sounds like a narrow street and your tenants are blocking it. My old house our street was only 1 1/2 lanes wide, while technically legal to park, nobody did.

This is why I moved to an HOA community.

Help-neighbor Issue (by ReMaven [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 2:03 PM

Live - it doesn’t have maintenance issues, although if you didn’t see the house, you wouldn’t know by his complaints. He wants me to put in a vinyl fence to match his, at my expense. There is nothing wrong with the fence that replacing a few slats won’t fix (I had my husband look at it this morning).

The oil tank, I was removing. Because i just spent $10,000 replacing the HVAC system. and i didn’t like it sitting on the side of the yard unused and knew it would start to deteriorate. I’m putting a new roof and replacing several windows this Wed. I do a major yard cleanup every turnover, etc.

I tried to reason with him when he first started texting me. I told him that I do everything I can *legally* to put good tenants in there. I do criminal background checks and I don’t let anything slide, credit checks, don’t allow certain breeds of dogs, etc. the house looks 1000% better then when I bought it. He’s just a nudge, who doesn’t like having a “rental” next to him and has some weird ownership feelings about the house,

Do you believe after sending me that message complaining about the noise, that he texted me a picture of the white fence that matches his and said he would pay for 3 panels, but I would have to pay for 5 panels and installation “just an idea.”

Dude. No.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Ed [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 2:52 PM

You're earlier responses to him encouraged more. That did not work for you. Some people have nothing better to do than complain. Either block his number or don't respond.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Plenty [MO]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 3:16 PM

You are reading the text and thinking you need to do something. Instead read the text like its a news report. I ageee with above... thank him for letting you know. Also the letter "k" goes along way. I would let any voice phone calls go to voice mail. And i would only respond to his texts Monday thru Friday 9 to 3pm. While you are wearing your business hat.

Help-neighbor Issue (by LisaFL [FL]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 3:43 PM

I'd tell him if he wants to put up a vinyl fence he's welcome to just put it in front of yours. This way you have yours to maintain and he has the one he wants to look at and can maintain because changing your fence is not something you're interested in doing at this time (remember he's enjoying the benefit of your fence).

I started getting harassed by a neighboring tenant who wanted me to remove two mature oak trees in my yard because they dropped too many acorns! I told him if he didn't want to live near acorns he could have rented another house as he knew the trees were there when he rented his house. And well he is not a tree, he can move.

Help-neighbor Issue (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 4:10 PM

Miss Maven ,why don't you just humour him and talk to him ,he seems to be yearning fo someone to communicate with.And the idea of him paying for s nice white plastic fence is appealing,even though you don't really need it.practice on shooting the Blarney,I know you weren't born in Ireland,nor kissed the Blarney stone,but that's all right ,you can learn ,I LL teach you,won't cost you a penny as a matter of fact I have a friend in Malvern who would sit in for me .she's over there now having a great time,so let me know.............charlie..............................................

Help-neighbor Issue (by dlb [GA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 6:30 PM

Thank him for taking his time to alert you but if there are any problems, you think that you are able to handle them.

If he doesn't get the message, ignore him. Over time he will stop sending you messages. --76.111.xx.xx

Help-neighbor Issue (by REMaven [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 7:46 PM

So I’ve had a glass of wine and my husband and I are having the best time composing passive/aggressive response texts (that I’m not sending)

“Thanks for letting me know about the fence. Since you say it’s in such terrible shape, we’re just gonna rip it down. Appreciate the heads up!”

“Thanks for the offer on the fence. Our budget is $150 for repairs. Happy to cut a check to your fence guy if you want to replace it altogether!”

Our other idea is to gather up everyone in our family and have like 10 people walk through, pretend we are going over the lease and having them get in a loud fight with one another on the front yard.

Or, have my husband (6’3” and BIG) knock on the door and say “I hear you have a problem.”

Thanks for all the advice. It’s nice to hear from cooler heads when I’m seeing red. At least I’ve learned (at almost 50) to let things sit before responding.

I really am amazed that people just shoot rude things off in the heat of the moment. It sucks being professional all the time. My credo is though, “he who loses their temper first, loses everything.” I

Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 7:52 PM

Since you're in a wine influenced decision making mode and a realtor, draw up a sales contract and send it to him for twice what you want for the property. See if he'll buy it from you.

Help-neighbor Issue (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 7:53 PM

And then send a note that says "Here's a sales agreement for the property, since you care more about it than I do."


Help-neighbor Issue (by myob [GA]) Posted on: Oct 6, 2018 8:28 PM

DJ VA I've had a house burn-- why would I need a call? Call fire department! Went over in morning. Your not suggesting you would hop on a hose?

Help-neighbor Issue (by Lucy [IN]) Posted on: Oct 7, 2018 3:22 AM

I had a neighbor that I felt was in my 'bidness more than necessary. I ended up telling him, that I would take care of my side of the street and he can take care of his. Yeh, my ire was raised. He did call me a couple of weeks ago and informed me a door was hanging open on a vacant apartment. (it had went to voicemail). i called the local police to check it and close it up. I wish he had done the same.

( it apparently had a finicky latch and needs that extra tug) --174.221.xx.xx

Help-neighbor Issue (by J [FL]) Posted on: Oct 7, 2018 5:23 AM

I had something like this years ago. I had bought the house as a foreclosure and someone next door (a relative of the owners who was staying with them because he lost his own house) kept bothering me, wanting to help do work on the my property. I got a bad vibe from him and tried to be polite. The last straw was when he showed up with some friend and wanted me to show the place to her (it wasn't even ready for rent) and got pushy. It ended with a shouting match and he finally backed off. Luckily for me he moved out of there and I never saw him again.

Help-neighbor Issue (by nhsailmaker [NH]) Posted on: Oct 7, 2018 5:30 AM


tell him to never ever call you again on your personal phone and then block him

Help-neighbor Issue (by don [PA]) Posted on: Oct 7, 2018 9:42 PM

Ignore the texts. Most seem to be BS, but maybe one day one of them will be valuable info. for you.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Laura [MD]) Posted on: Oct 7, 2018 9:57 PM

I would thank him as WMH recommends, however it would take me many many days to respond. I want to send the message that texting me is NOT immediate access to me or a response.

If something is urgent this is NOT the way to communicate.

Help-neighbor Issue (by Barb [MO]) Posted on: Oct 8, 2018 5:31 AM

Have you considered asking him if he’d like to purchase the home?

Love the $150 budget. You never know, he might take you up on that.

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