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Sexual Hot Attraction (by Geoff London [ON]) Feb 21, 2018 7:36 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Robert J [CA]) Feb 21, 2018 8:02 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Laura [MD]) Feb 21, 2018 8:08 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Feb 21, 2018 8:35 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Robert,Ontario,Can [ON]) Feb 21, 2018 8:44 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Ms Biz [IN]) Feb 21, 2018 9:06 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by TahoeGal [CA]) Feb 21, 2018 11:09 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Feb 21, 2018 11:16 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by LeePookie [IN]) Feb 22, 2018 3:43 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Feb 22, 2018 4:57 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Feb 22, 2018 5:04 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Elliot [RI]) Feb 22, 2018 5:15 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Vee [OH]) Feb 22, 2018 5:57 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by S i d [MO]) Feb 22, 2018 6:09 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by RB [MI]) Feb 22, 2018 6:20 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Feb 22, 2018 6:22 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Jim in O C [CA]) Feb 22, 2018 6:33 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by NC INVESTOR [NC]) Feb 22, 2018 7:01 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Julie [KS]) Feb 22, 2018 7:15 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Jo [CT]) Feb 22, 2018 7:18 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Feb 22, 2018 7:24 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Tom [FL]) Feb 22, 2018 7:29 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by gevans [SC]) Feb 22, 2018 7:30 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Deanna [TX]) Feb 22, 2018 7:32 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Feb 22, 2018 9:06 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Feb 22, 2018 9:09 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by JEN [IL]) Feb 22, 2018 9:43 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by WMH [NC]) Feb 22, 2018 9:55 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by AllyM [NJ]) Feb 22, 2018 11:03 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Stephen [ON]) Feb 22, 2018 2:25 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Sue [MI]) Feb 22, 2018 3:43 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Mike45 [NV]) Feb 22, 2018 3:47 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Feb 23, 2018 10:26 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Brian [CA]) Feb 23, 2018 1:51 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Lana [IN]) Feb 25, 2018 11:45 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by TonyT [PA]) Feb 25, 2018 12:12 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Ray-N-Pa [PA]) Feb 26, 2018 6:05 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by Hyman [NY]) Mar 7, 2018 5:15 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by pmh [TX]) Mar 7, 2018 5:34 PM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Mar 8, 2018 9:40 AM
       Sexual Hot Attraction (by mike [CA]) Mar 9, 2018 1:17 PM

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Geoff London [ON]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 7:36 PM

I know this is riske but let's speak realistically and honestly.

I rented to a single mom and since Day 1 I feel she has been flirting with me.

Like she wants to hook up or something.

London, Ontario is basically a graveyard for older guys to meet women.

Has anyone ever dated their tenants?

Honest question folks. I'm sure I'm not alone in my passion.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Robert J [CA]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 8:02 PM

This is a no brainier! You can NOT date a tenant unless you are willing to give up on collecting rent! With over 100 units over the years I had many opportunities to date my tenants....couldn't, wouldn't and shouldn't.

Do you want to be accused of something bad? I didn't think so... --47.156.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Laura [MD]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 8:08 PM

Bad ide on sooooo many levels!

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Landlord ofthe Flies [TX]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 8:35 PM

Collecting rent is overrated.

How attractive is she? How flirty?

You do have the advantage of having run a background check, credit report and criminal search on her. I'm sure that's more information than you would get from a typical date.

However you don't know if she finds you attractive or the idea of free rent attractive. But collecting rent could get a whole lot more fun.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Robert,Ontario,Can [ON]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 8:44 PM

Better to join a online dating site then keep the business and personal life two separate entities. Sooner or later rent will be a issue so stay away from a casual approach from running a business. You may open up something you are regret for a very long time. I know at times it was tempting but later realized I stayed away from a road that was going down hill. You know about many issues that is happening in the media so imagine yourself being in that situation of being sued. Ontario has one of worst landlord and tenant acts in North America which is called the committee of social justice. They have completely different set of rules for the government rental units where evicted end of story. We have approximately 3 months of wicked witch policies of the Fiberals so lets hope things work out where they get the boot.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Ms Biz [IN]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 9:06 PM

I know a married couple that are real wastage investors/ landlords and own a successful hardware biz. Wife was husbands tenant in a trailer park years ago. So it is not always about collecting rent ...

Sexual Hot Attraction (by TahoeGal [CA]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 11:09 PM

I'm thinking of Roy (Woody Harrelson) and his Landlady in the movie "Kingpin"!!!!!!

Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Feb 21, 2018 11:16 PM

Geoff, Not a good idea,if you go over to Jarvis St in Toronto there are many like her,but I don't think you would want to associate with them There are too many nice girls in the World,just keep looking.................charlie...........................................................

Sexual Hot Attraction (by LeePookie [IN]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 3:43 AM

Kingpin... I just spit my coffee out!

Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 4:57 AM


For times like these, you have to develop yourself a flow chart of sorts.

#1. Am I married or single?

A. married, STOP go home and take a cold shower.

B. Single, proceed to question 2.

#2. Am I in this business to be a professional landlord or investor or do I just own a duplex with an empty unit next door.

A. I am a professional, STOP go home and take a cold shower.

B. It's a duplex, I don't she's hot and I'm single!

You get the idea.

Just know if you get to the point where you answer B at question 2, she's no longer your tenant and it will probably end poorly.

I worked for an investor in Philly years ago when I was first learning about RE. He was an older guy who was single and had a ton of units.

I was working in a really nice 3br rental of his and this younger rough around the edges but attractive single

mom starts moving her stuff in. I asked the other helper there who had worked for the guy for quite some time how on eart is she able to afford that unit.

He laughed and said "Come on man, she isn't paying any rent!"

So it happens. The good old barter system. That's life. That's reality. Just prepare for the fallout.

Not for me though. I was in it for the RE long before I met my wife. I was never interested in Real Estate with Benefits.

I do get a few prospects and tenants at times where I'll admit I gotta take a 2nd look just to make sure they are as attractive as they were during first glance! Hey, we're all human.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 5:04 AM

It may be a new marketing angle!!!

Free Rent!

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Elliot [RI]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 5:15 AM

YOLO(you only live once)

Would you rather be right or rich?

If I were him, living in a graveyard, I will get the relationship going, once itís ripe. Move her to your flat. She lives rent free, you got someone to warm your bed.


As a LL, itís my passion to solve the in-solvable.

I wonít pass NEís first question, so I had to pass those opportunities many times.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Vee [OH]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 5:57 AM

Get a small pail of paint and see if you have anything in common besides the hinge pin and the door, then try going dutch to dinner, have her pick a musical and then start to visit friends - talking about occupations, even a fish get's into trouble with their mouth open, don't fall for the hook - line and sink her - the tables will turn on the last phrase.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by S i d [MO]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 6:09 AM

All moral considerations aside....if you're giving someone a tangible benefit (i.e. free / reduced rent) in exchange for sex...that could (mind the word "COULD") be viewed as any or all of the following:

1) Prostitution

2) Employment

3) Contact work


It will all depend on what type of lawsuit she decides to file against you after the break up and when the last time your judge was jilted / how bad the last break up was / if he/she hates men at this particular moment in life (notice how gender inclusive I was there?).

Did I just assume that it would go poorly? ;-)

I'm not saying it's never been done. Probably happens all the time. People do stuff all the time....some of those times we get to hear about it on the news or via Dr. Phil. --173.17.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by RB [MI]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 6:20 AM

Can She Swing a Hammer, run a Saw

and carry 2 Bundles of Shingles

up the Ladder ? ( 1 on each shoulder )

Do what Ya gotta do.

Who knows ? One time out might decide Your Future !

Never stop looking for Love.

"Some like it Hot".


Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 6:22 AM

All joking aside, it boils down to what Sid said.

When I was single and renting an apartment, there was a single hottie who lived downstairs. I was telling a co-worker about her and said, "Even rats don't ______ where they sleep."

Haha, it's true. --174.201.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Jim in O C [CA]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 6:33 AM

Bad idea. I would never have a relationship with s tenant and I never have a tenant do any work for me. I keep it strickly business.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by NC INVESTOR [NC]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:01 AM

"Collecting rent is overrated."



Let's be real. The fact that you are even contemplating this says it is fait accompli. Raging hormones almost always win out over common sense. --71.75.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Julie [KS]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:15 AM

That's gonna kill cash flow --104.128.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Jo [CT]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:18 AM

...actually, a friend of mine was a young single professional woman. She rented an apartment from a young single guy landlord. The rest was history!

They got married and are still together 20 years later!

I would tread carefully, but you never know....

Sexual Hot Attraction (by NE [PA]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:24 AM

Haha Julie!

My question is, is she going to be allowed to paint?

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Tom [FL]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:29 AM

Geoff London [ON]), What is your net worth, IF you know, that's great. IF NOT then add it up everything you own real estate, stocks, bonds, retirement. NOW what's your bottomline. NOW do not disclose this amount on this board. Just keep it to yourself.

HOWEVER, once you start a relationship with this Lady, you will be asked by the judge in court after she sues you for every dime you are worth!!!

As NE of PA says take a cold shower THEN pack your self in ICE to chill out. Then go grocery shopping you may meet someone there. ANOTHER thought would be apply for The Bachelor, the TV reality show. A great show to make a fool out of yourself to entertain the viewing audience.

Have you not been reading about Weinstein and others in the media due to sexual harassment. Let's just add Geoff to the list now because I guarantee you, you are opening yourself up to a bad situation.

Another option. IF Canada has a 1031 exchange similar to the USA. Your tax burden on the property is deferred to another property. ANYWAY, IF you are in the back country of Canada and have not seen a female in years. A perfect 10 that is then move to the big city. Grocery shopping, church, singles group, friends, online dating. HOWEVER a landlord dating a tenant is the worst idea.

Take another COLD SHOWER, the unit the lady is living in consider a property management company to manage the unit while she is renting the unit.

Another option if you are living in the back country of Canada and you have a lake nearby and the water temp is lower due to the winter. Consider taking a swim in the lake to CHILL OUT. HOWEVER be Careful of FROST BITE so MAYBE a cold shower is your only choice at this point to CHILL OUT!!!

NOW if you are still considering dating your hot tenant, take a cold shower. SPRING BREAK is fast approaching take a much needed vacation to the best Spring Break locations, while you are there look at properties for rental potential; then the trip could be considered a tax write off for you. You may want to consider remodeling your bathroom with a walk thru shower, similar to a car wash...

Business and Pleasure DO NOT MIX!!! --99.56.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by gevans [SC]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:30 AM

Happily married for 39 years, so my advice may be biased...

Never no never no never mix personal and business. You could lose everything.

If she's that attractive to you, help her move elsewhere (to a nicer place of course) and THEN date her.

A local LL accepted the advances of his young attractive tenant. She told him the following month "no more rent money, only sex from now on".

After six months his wife was demanding to know why they were missing the rent money every month...

He almost gave away this property (sold it really, really cheap) just to break the ll/tenant relationship.

It could have cost him much, much more.

Consider the possible costs. Then consider the possible gains. Just like any other BUSINESS deal. Proceed accordingly. --98.122.x.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Deanna [TX]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 7:32 AM

Ew. I bet she's a petri dish of std's, if that's her normal default mode for financial transactions...

You realize, if you accept "rent" once, you can never accept real rent again? So when you decide your bank account would prefer a tenant who actually pays money, you'll probably have to evict your tenant who's not paying money... and she's not going to want to give up infinite free rent... and then you get to take her to court... and then everyone gets to laugh at you when she tells the world about your arrangement... and then you get busted for solicitation, or whatever it's called.

So, how much is rent per month? $1,000? $2,000?

I presume nothing she can give you in the course of a year is worth $12k. Or $18k. Or whatever the number is.

If running your biz professionally, like a biz, is too boring or unfulfilling, sell your rentals, use the money on something that's more fulfilling and fun... and see how long she sticks around. ;)

Sexual Hot Attraction (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 9:06 AM


In the words of the noble Canadian philosopher Red Green

ďIf the ladies donít find ya handsome they better find ya handyĒ.

So are you handsome or handy?


PS No way. Too many legal issues when mixing a business relationship with another tyoe of relationship.


Sexual Hot Attraction (by BRAD 20,000 [IN]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 9:09 AM

And with all the me-too accusations destroying menís careers...

Plus donít confuse florting with playing up to the LL.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by JEN [IL]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 9:43 AM

Maybe she's looking for a daddy for her kid? --107.77.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by WMH [NC]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 9:55 AM

She may not be flirting with you. She may just be friendly. Not every single mom is looking for a daddy for her kid or a sex partner for her bed.

And if YOU act on what you think are her signals, and you misconstrued them, you are now the creepy old landlord pressuring the tenant to have sex. Bad in every way you can think of.

Do what the kids do: hit up Tinder and don't bother your resident.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by AllyM [NJ]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 11:03 AM

Don't do it. I posted a long explanation and it was not posted. Most women don't mean to flirt. Go online right now to one of the internet match sites and find someone else to get your mind off this.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Stephen [ON]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 2:25 PM

Well I have had cause to go through London, ON a time or two and I would disagree with it being described as a graveyard. Its a thriving university town. There are lots of social groups, churches and other organizations. Dating flirty tenants would appear nowhere on my list of conceivable options however. This is a road to endless trouble and regret.

To think of obvious pitfalls, how about an aggrieved flirty tenant deciding that you are an oppressive and sexually exploitative landlord worthy of a human rights complaint? The Human Rights Commission will I am sure help with filling out the forms. The Landlord and Tenant Board will hear all complaints about your exploitation of vulnerable tenants to serve your carnal ends. Think about this for a minute. A failed relationship of this nature is not going to go well for you and the tenant is going to claim damages and want to be made whole with your worldly goods. They only sue people with assets and you Mr. Landlord have assets and poor judgment. Think twice and thrice before thinking any more about this and if that does not work take one of the many cold showers that so many other posters have wisely recommended. Your romantic aspirations are at odds with your commercial well being.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Sue [MI]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 3:43 PM

Depends on whether or not you are willing to give her everything you have.... is sex worth losing that? I don't usually call people _______ (don't want to get busted by Mr LL) but geez. Why would a hot young thing flirt with an old dude? Money. That's it.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Mike45 [NV]) Posted on: Feb 22, 2018 3:47 PM

If you pursue it, you will never be able to evict her.

If you want a paid mistress, pay her rent to another LL. then, when you break up, you stop paying the rent, and she is that other landlord's problem.

If you sleep with your own tenant, it could mean free rent forever! Especially in this day of #MeToo!!!!

Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Feb 23, 2018 10:26 AM

Tom in Florida,Don't think you could take a swim in a Canadian Lake in any part of Canada at this tome of year,most have st least 6" of ice to chop through first.................charlie...............................................mmm...........

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Brian [CA]) Posted on: Feb 23, 2018 1:51 PM

Reminded me of the Seinfield episode where Jerry starts sleeping with his housekeeper. Pretty quickly she stops cleaning but still wants to get paid.

My first thought was what the hey, maybe is not a terrible idea. If all you are looking for is sex, then find a professional. Charlie Sheen said he didnít pay hookers for sex, the payment was for them to leave after sex. But if you are looking for a Long Term Relationship go ahead. Take it slow. Keep sex OFF the table for a while while you see how it goes.

After thinking about it a little more, Donít Do It. Use the energy and excitement that you feel when you think about her to get out of the house and go do something where you can meet other single people. This would be much more productive with a lot less risk.

You might be interested in going on Reddit and looking for a sub called TheRedPill --174.213.x.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Lana [IN]) Posted on: Feb 25, 2018 11:45 AM

It's a mistake, as they all tell you. Men with the hots for a woman tend to mislead themselves about the woman flirting. You see what you want to see when you let Richard rule.

It's a mistake, but go ahead and do it anyway because the School of Hard Knocks beats Advice any day.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by TonyT [PA]) Posted on: Feb 25, 2018 12:12 PM

I have a different view. Alsothough it's is a good policy to eliminate all tenants from dating, it can work out well on an individual basis.

I believe it depends on the maturity of the tenant. In my 20's I once rented FROM a nice young lady and we did get romantic, but once never thought once thought about not paying rent. So since I was mature about it, there was no problem at all.

My wife and I keep our money separate and she is mature enough to offer me money when I work on her rentals, etc. the maturity of the tenant is what determines my actions on this topic. I would allow for some hanging out with her until you can figure out if she possesses the maturity to know that paying rent is totally separate from hanging out.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Ray-N-Pa [PA]) Posted on: Feb 26, 2018 6:05 AM

Wasn't there a song went something like ..... looking for love in all the wrong places.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by Hyman [NY]) Posted on: Mar 7, 2018 5:15 PM

You have to be careful with some of these middle aged unattractive guys who are renting to students. My daughter was harassed while renting a small house by her landlord.

She was a Grad student. He saw her as an easy mark because she was living alone and so busy with her studies.

Grad students are targeted by these guys. She moved and rented an apartment in a building with professional property managers and not creep guys.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by pmh [TX]) Posted on: Mar 7, 2018 5:34 PM

blows me away so many posters offering advice other than donít be an idiot. One rule. Donít pork the employees or the tenants. blows me away poster asked the question.

Sexual Hot Attraction (by cjo'h [CT]) Posted on: Mar 8, 2018 9:40 AM

Geoff, you still around,don't know how old you are or how good looking,I didn't say handsome, just good looking.Why are you bending down so much,If you are in the market,what's the matter with Miss Ontario,or Miss Michigan or Miss USA.or Miss Wales,Miss England,or Miss Thailand,why stoop to a common tenant,or did you already miss the Boat,Or are you just a Dreamer? "I've met some folks',who say that I'm a Dreamer,and I've no doubt there's truth in what they say,But"........................charlie................................................. --174.199.xx.xx

Sexual Hot Attraction (by mike [CA]) Posted on: Mar 9, 2018 1:17 PM

guilty. but she was really really hot. like "hotter that georgia asphalt" hot. those who called her a hooker are judgemental. and the rap about std's reflects THEIR history

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