I own my home and I have a very verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive person living with me. He has threatened me with things like I'm going to slit your throat to I'm going to burn your house down with you in it to you're gonna pay for this eep and so on. I started the eviction process and bcuz he has lost yet another job he is always over my shoulder. So he heard me talking to my attorney about the eviction. He is now saying he is going to fight it. Can he win since everything has been verbal? I have had the police several times even for physical abuse. I leave my own home everyday just so I am not around him. I need him out of my home. Any suggeations?

People like this don't care about restraining orders.

You're in a dangerous situation. Believe threats like this.

You're likely dealing with a mentally unstable person. People who are unstable are capable of ANYTHING. You see it in the news every day. (We don't want to read about you as a statistic).

Understand that even if you get him out, he may still stalk you, and try to do what he said. At your home, at work, while shopping, anywhere, anytime.

Understand that police may call it a civil matter and do little. They generally respond AFTER things happen. (Just watch the news for proof). However, in some states, they may take him to jail. It's after they let him out THE NEXT DAY that you need to be extra vigilant.

Option 1: You find another place until this is over. (May take a while).NO house or job is worth getting hurt or worse over (like he is threatening). Have a moving company remove all your stuff. Take any animals with you. Consider putting the place up for sale. You may need to be in another town/state.There are battered women's shelters if needed, BUT the ones I've seen don't have much security. Depending on how crazy he is, you may need to change your identity.

Option 2: I likely can't put it here--because. But I think I can say arm yourself and defend yourself. No half way stuff. If you do this, there will likely be ramifications. If you are not prepared for and willing to deal with these ramifications, choose option 1.

LTD might be able to give better advice.

It's obvious that you're not telling the entire story. You are living with someone and pushing the wrong buttons, getting a undesirable reaction. So you own the home. The key here is you're a women and are scared of someone living under the same roof, a male.

You can easily file for a restraining order to have the person removed from the property until a hearing. There a judge will determine who has to move and why.

It is your job to gain evidence prior to the hearing. Has the person touched you? Put marks on you. Do you have witnesses to the person's verbal abuse?

The mature way to handle a situation when roommate don't get a long is to end the tenancy and have one of the parties move out, with 30 to 60 days notice.

I would definitely suggest you get off from around this person. Anything you do will only enrage him more. You're not the issue; he's the one with the deep seated issues however, you're the focal point them.

I say this kindly, and also sincerely....your life is in danger. Do whatever it takes to get that person out, regardless of how "legal" it is.

Now to be clear, don't kill him....but if it were my daughter, here's what I would do:

1) Change the locks in the next 30 minutes.

2) Talk to the trustworthy men in your life and see if they would be willing to help you move all your roommates' stuff out into a storage unit. If you have none, then hire a moving company.

3) Get the trustworthy men to spend a few days/nights at the place around the time he normally comes home and inform him where his stuff is, and that it will be delivered to his new place when he has secured alternative housing. If you can't arrange for this, post notice on the (locked) door that none of his possessions remain inside. Meanwhile, you spend the next 1-2 weeks at a hotel or friend's house. Give him zero reason to break in and let him know where his stuff is. You will not be the one delivering his stuff: trustworthy men or moving company will handle that.

I don't care if the law says I can't do this. I would rather be arrested or fined than find my daughter beat up or dead.

Get. Him. Out. Now!

P.S. Never do this again. You have seen how badly it can go. Learn from this lesson.

Seems like cops should have removed him by now. Was he a cop or is he a friend to some of them or a prison guard? Police are way more tolerant with prison guards.

So, yes, your life is in danger and you need to do what Sid said. Do you have an organization called Womanspace near you? They will get you a place to stay while your attorney takes care of the situation with this guy. If you have a pet get it out of there as he may hurt it first.

Get out of there. Contact your attorney when off the premises. Get a protective order. Do EVERYTHING you can to stay safe.

My relative finally has his trial coming up where he ‘got into it’ with his landlord/ roommate. Yes, the landlord died. I knew my relative was having a tough time, but, we’d had a tough upbringing...

I live about 30 miles from Cedar Rapids and Iowa City.

Attorney called to finally tell me 2 weeks after I told him I needed this eviction notice ASAP he sent it to the sheriff's dept. Once he receives the notice I am going to file for a protection order

I sleep about an hour or 2 a night I can't eat can't sleep and he still sits there getting drunk. He has been stealing my prescription medications for my anxiety and nothing I can do about bcuz the police say I can prove it since I didn't see him take them. No instead they ask me ...

I live about 30 miles from Cedar Rapids and Iowa City.

Attorney called to finally tell me 2 weeks after I told him I needed this eviction notice ASAP he sent it to the sheriff's dept. Once he receives the notice I am going to file for a protection order

I sleep about an hour or 2 a night I can't eat can't sleep and he still sits there getting drunk. He has been stealing my prescription medications for my anxiety and nothing I can do about bcuz the police say I can prove it since I didn't see him take them. No instead they ask me ...

I have been looking at the different protection order and found out how to fill it out online and sent it back electronically. I'm going to call the domestic abuse holiness for help in filling it out.

Thank you y'all.... for everything.